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Simple Farm Wedding Absolutely Filled with Love

Our gorgeous weddings this week have something amazing in common: they are all about the love story, not the details. Our lovely bride Sara says “the whole day felt very intimate – due in no small part to the fact that some of our very talented friends helped put it all together. A childhood friend of mine was the DJ, another our officiant, and my officemate turned dear friend Dorothée Brand of Belathée was our photographer. Our friends Matt and Emily of The Corson Building curated a wonderful assortment of food and beverages, and the save the dates, invitations and menus were created by another friend, Danielle Bellert of BDR-studio. We are so lucky to be surrounded by such gifted and generous people.” It is seriously inspiring that this couple didn’t get caught up in ‘all things wedding’, but kept it totally authentic to them, and it really shows in every aspect of their day. Which reminds me – be sure to read on for what Sara says she would do differently if she had to do it all again – it is so honest and one of my all time favorites answers!

Sara tells us the sweet story of finding what she calls her “not-so-expensive-dress”: “I was visiting my parents at home in Anchorage, Alaska the winter before our wedding and my mom and I went to a small wedding dress shop which featured many consignment pieces. I was not expecting to find my wedding dress in Alaska, but ended up falling in love with a piece that had been handmade by a local woman. She had originally made it for her daughter. Because Anchorage is a small town I contacted her and we began corresponding with each other – we’ve since shared many cards and phone calls and my connection to her made the dress feel that much more special.”
Sara paired her beautiful gown with her great grandmother’s veil, which has also been worn by her mom, aunt and cousin!

If you had to do it all over again, is there anything you would do differently? Probably! Ha! It’s all kind of a blur now, but of course no process is perfect and there were a lot of growing pains during the planning. Honestly it was probably the most difficult year of our relationship and I’m sure wedding planning had something to do with that. I think it was important for us to forgo the illusion that the planning would be romantic and magical. And it is amazing how any quarrels leading up to the wedding didn’t really seem to matter on the big day or after.

One of them was definitely walking down the aisle with our families. We opted not to have a wedding party but had our parents and siblings walk us down the aisle instead.

We didn’t want anything overtly religious, and we knew we wanted to write our own vows. We wanted it to feel sentimental but also a little light hearted. And nothing too long! We took cues from a lot of friends’ and siblings’ weddings, but pretty much wrote the script on our own. We tried to combine many of our favorite features from past weddings into our day.

We wrote our own! We wanted it to be a surprise for each other. The only thing we agreed on beforehand was that we would keep our vows around one minute. Hearing each other’s vows in the moment was by far the most special part of our entire wedding.

The wedding budget is definitely a slippery slope and it’s really easy to get carried away. This isn’t revelatory advice, but I would just recommend picking the things that matter most to you and spending your money on those and not worrying about making everything “perfect”. For example, I chose not to spend a lot of money on a dress but really cared about having beautiful photographs and flowers. And think of the guests’ perspective – guests will notice if you run out of booze, but they won’t notice if you didn’t put hand carved name tags at each seat!

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Heartfelt Wedding in The Redwoods

We have such a sweet wedding to share with you today! After a heartfelt ceremony held in the ‘fairy ring’ of ancient redwoods, these two treated guests to a fun summer camp vibe, but with an elegant, grown up twist (Archery? Live band? Champagne bar? Yes, please!) My favorite detail has to be the heart-and-arrow escort card displays, which not only look oh so cute, but were a sweet recognition of the couple’s new shared surname… Pierce!

Jen told us she and Skyler first met when she was just 15! “We apparently circled in and out of each other’s lives at several different points before it stuck. We met each other at a high school dance, and I used to go to the coffee shop he worked at. We dated in our twenties before going our separate ways after about six months, before finally getting together nine years later!”

I did have something old and borrowed – I wore my mom’s veil, which we had altered to be more modern. We replaced the puffy headpiece so popular back then (!) with a comb, and used only one of the longest pieces. It happened to be edged in the exact same kind of lace as my wedding gown that I had already purchased without knowing they were the same lace! I also had something new (white sapphire earrings), and something blue (garter.)

We both thought of marrying in the redwoods right after Skyler proposed, because of the spiritual energy that’s palpable there. Earlier that year we had driven through bigger redwoods on a roadtrip from a friend’s wedding, and loved them. We realized the redwoods north of the Bay area (Eureka/Humboldt) were too far from an airport for guests, and other areas of redwoods we liked, like those in Big Sur, were in parks where we’d have to do everything from scratch (bringing generators/chairs etc.). So that narrowed it down to a handful of venues that are already set up for weddings south of the Bay area, and closer to airports.

The laughter and the tears, and the amazing flowers! The flower circle at the alter was even more spectacular than anything I had seen, and even better than what I had given our florist, Nancy Liu Chin, reference to. Several of our guests posed for their own pictures there after the ceremony, because it was so gorgeous!

For some reason, perhaps stemming from the rehearsal, I thought our officiant was going to ask Skyler to say his vows first. So on the day when she turned first to me and said, “Jen, do you take Skyler to be your lawfully wedded husband?” I just stared blankly at her. She gently prompted me with “you’re supposed to say yes” – and then everyone (including me) cracked up. Of course I said yes, and the ceremony continued! Our whole ceremony was quite emotional; we were both a little teary at times, and then in moments like this there were was all-around laughter, too.

My mom was amazing and took care of getting all the candles that were a big part of the ceremony and reception, (some LED of course because of the woods but they looked so real and added the extra twinkle to the fairy-like venue!) Skyler and my sister Amanda made two incredible escort signs to look like archery targets, with each name on wooden dowels with fletching like an arrow. It took her weeks and she never wants to do anything remotely DIY ever again, haha!

Nobody Does It Better by Carly Simon was our first dance, and Beyond the Sea by Robbie Williams was our joint parent dance. Skyler and I only took two lessons the week before the wedding (my parents too) and we were trying to get the steps just right with the dip at the right time in the music that I wasn’t soaking it in as much as I would have liked. So that I’d advise against. Either take dance lessons long before so you really know it, or just go with the flow and do what comes naturally to you as a couple.

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Preppy Wedding at Drayton Hall

When Adrienne Page sent me these photos, I could not wait to share them with you!
Not only did Sallie Gray and Jason’s September wedding take place in a gorgeous location, but it was designed by Tara Guerard of Soiree. It was a day full of Southern tradition and special details – many of them inspired by the bride’s eyelet dress – and Adrienne captured them all beautifully.

Guests received pails of goodies, including bottled water and cookies, in their hotel rooms. The guests favors, delicate hand-blown drinking glasses, were also packaged in these personalized pails.

Sallie Gray wore an eyelet dress by Carolina Herrera, her bouquet was wrapped in eyelet, and even her shoes echoed the eyelet motif.

For the ceremony, Sallie Gray wore her sister’s veil – something borrowed. Umbrellas were made available for guests in case of rain – or shine!

In lieu of a guest book, guests could write on notecards that matched the rest of the wedding stationery, and pin them onto a white bulletin board. Each tier of the cake was a different flavor: butter cake with raspberry filling, lemon cake with lemon curd, orange cake with triple sec, and butter cake with pistachio.